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What to expect as a First Time Swinger

What to expect as a First Time Swinger

When it comes to swinging, it can be hard to get some up front information. People like to spice it up to make their own experiences look, not only more hot and sexy, but also smooth and flawless. Because this is pretty much never the case when it comes to being a beginner at anything, we wanted to bring you some honest explanations on what you should expect as a first time swinger.

The stress of swinging for the first time as a first time swinger

The first thing you need to know is that it might actually be a little bit stressful at the start. Our culture has a huge emphasis on monogamy. You practically never see anything but that in movies, and when you do, it’s never portrayed in a positive light. Because so much of your culture comes with a focus on only ever being with one person, you might find that the first time you’re with someone at a swinging party is loads of fun… only to have the guilt crash into you later on that night.

There’s no reason to be guilty. Swingers are relationships that have been approved by both parties, and that have been openly discussed. It’s not even close to cheating, and yet at the end of your first party… that’s what you’re going to be concerned with. Did you accidentally cross a line? Is your partner really on board with this? You’ll find that it’s going to take a lot of time to actually get used to being with someone else.

Discussing Swinging with your partner for the first time

You might even find that the actual conversation with your partner where you first propose swinging is easier to have than actually picking out a date and a location for your first time, so to speak. The nerves are going to be there… but you’ll find that your partner is feeling the same way! All that you need to do is make sure to have a lot of open communication with your partner, and make sure that you’re both still on the same page about things. You can draw a lot of comfort from knowing that not only is that feeling of irrational guilt normal but you know what? Swinging as a whole is a lot more normal than you’re probably expecting.

Take a little bit of time to look online at sites designed to help swingers meet up, and you’ll find that there are a lot more people involved than modern media alludes too. There’s nothing obscene or abnormal about the concept of swinging, even if the movies have led you to think otherwise.

What to experience as a First Time Swinger

Something else that you should be aware of is the fact that even if you and your partner are both into the swinging scene, you still have different needs. You might end up finding that your partner is interested in hooking up with other people more often than you are – or even that it’s the other way around! This might seem scary and unbalanced but take a moment to think about the fact that even when you’re only sleeping with each other, you both probably have vastly different libido. One of you probably ends up horny and looking to have fun way more often than the other one is.

The fact is that at the end of the day, one in five couples are already out there performing in some level of ethical non monogamy. This might not always be strictly swinging, but it should be enough of a concrete factoid to offer you some relief as to whether you’re odd or normal. Fact check: you’re totally normal.

In fact, the biggest hint that we can tell someone that’s brand new to the swinging scene is that you’re going to have ups and downs, good experiences and bad ones, just like with any other aspect of your life. But so long as you’re always open and honest, not just with your romantic partner but with your swing of the night, you’re going to find that it’s all going to work out in the end… and that it’s going to lead you into a lot more fun times than it will anything else.

So keep your head up, don’t focus so much on what media portrays, and go have an awesome time!

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