Cuckolding is where a man (cuckold) or a woman (cuckqueen) derives sexual pleasure from seeing their partner have sex with another partner. Sexual humiliation is often involved for the cuckold or cuckqueen, where their partner is having sex with someone who is more well-endowed, or is physically more attractive or dominant.
An introduction to the cuckolding fantasy
Do you fantasize about watching your partner get well and truly fucked, whilst you are tied up in the corner on a chair? perhaps back at home, waiting for them to return? Does the sexual humiliation of seeing an alpha man with a BBC or BWC fuck your girlfriend or wife get your cock hard? Or perhaps you want to see your man pleasured by another woman, whilst you are forced to clean up the mess afterward? You are most likely a cuckold (male) or cuckqueen (female).
A great article on cuckolding by Esquire
“A Guide To Cuckolding: The Fetish Where You Enjoy Watching Your Partner Have Sex With Someone Else”
A cuckold is a male who is sexually excited and humiliated by seeing his wife or girlfriend have sex with another man, whilst he is teased, restrained, or humiliated. Often a cuckold will be sexually aroused by seeing his girlfriend or wife fucked by an alpha male (bull). A common cuckold fantasy is to be made to “clean up” the creampie from his wife or girlfriend, i.e. lick the bull’s cum from the cuckold’s girlfriend or wife’s pussy.
Types of Cuckoldry
Being a Cuckold in a relationship
Being an open cuckold in a relationship with your wife or girlfriend is a freeing experience if sexual humiliation and inferiority is your kink. Often the cuckold kink crossover with the wife or girlfriend being Hotwives. Hotwifing is where the female consensually has sex with other male partners, often this plays directly into the cuckold fantasy. Being a cuckold or a cuckqueen in a committed relationship will involve some kind of non-monogamy as you would expect. Quite often this is one-sided, with only the non-cuckold partner having consensual sex outside of the relationship.
Being a Cuckold with a Femdom Dominatrix or Findoms
As an ever increasingly popular kink, as you would expect, there are now 1000s of online femdoms and dominatrixes and real-life dominatrixes who specialize in the cuckolding kink. Often this will focus on the chastity side of the kink, with the femdom receiving pleasure from another partner, whilst the cuckold is forced into chastity, humiliation, and financial domination. There is obviously a large element of verbal and visual cuckold play in these examples as true cuckoldry is not possible, largely due to the domination being online, or the fact that the cuckold is not in a relationship in the vanilla sense, with the dominatrix, normally. Of course, lots of couples who are into the fetish lifestyle do practice cuckolding, so there is a crossover between non-monogamous sex and fetish/kinky play between the dominant partner and the cuckold or cuckqueen.
Being a Wife with a Cuckold Husband
As a wife with a cuckold husband, you will most likely be involved in non-monogamous sex with one or more other male or female partners. It is imperative that you as the wife are up for extra-marital sex, no matter what your cuck husband’s kinks are. You have to be happy and consent to this form of non-monogamous play.
Being a husband with a Cuckqueen Wife
So, you have a cuckqueen/cuckquean wife or girlfriend who wants to see you screw a cuckcake, either in front of her, or come back and tell her about it after. Similarly to that of a cuckold husband, You have to be happy and consent to this form of non-monogamous play.
A Cuckqueen is a woman (wife or girlfriend) who derives sexual pleasure from seeing their husband or boyfriend have sex with another woman (cuckcake), without her direct participation or pleasure (largely). Often the cuckquean will be into sexual humiliation, common fantasies include the cuckqueen cleaning up the cum from the other woman’s (cuckcake’s) body, holding the cuckcake’s legs in position whilst her husband fucks her, or being tied up and put in chastity, forced to watch her husband or boyfriend fuck the cuckcake. In this instance, the husband would be termed a “hot husband”.
Gay and Lesbian Cuckolding
Of course, there is cuckolding in the LGBTQIA+ world! Lesbian dominatrixes dominating their submissive female partners, inviting a cuckcake in. Or a gay male couple experimenting. Although less common than heterosexual cuckolding, there has always been the potential for an element of bisexual play in a heterosexual cuckolding dynamic, of course, this can be true of a homosexual dynamic too! There is a great article on Gay cuckolding below: Click Here
Experimenting with cuckolding as an amateur couple
Now let’s start with some baby steps, cuckolding intrigues you as either a man or a woman, how are you going to discuss it with your partner.
- Be open and honest, do you want to be the Hotwife or Hothusband, or are you going to be the Cuckold or Cuckquean. Don’t scare your partner, just let them know what really turns you on about the idea.
- Be ready for feedback and answer any questions your partner may have! Be prepared to field questions both immediately and over the coming days and weeks.
- What is the cuckolding arrangement going to entail? How often? Where? When? Who?
Cuckolding is where a man (cuckold) or a woman (cuckquean) derives sexual pleasure from seeing their partner have sex with another partner. Sexual humiliation is often involved for the cuckold or cuckquean, where their partner is having sex with someone who is more well-endowed, or is physically more attractive or dominant.
A brilliant article on Cuckqueans by LovePanky.
“Cuckquean Guide: Do You Like Watching Your Man with Someone Else?”
How to get started with Cuckolding
The first question to ask yourself is how am I going to discuss this with my partner? Once you have got that sorted and you have broached the topic, you then need to start discussing with your partner the boundaries. Perhaps you are starting off with some chastity and simple flirting with partners, or perhaps you already have a potential mutually agreeable partner lined up?
Are you going to be in the room? Is your partner going to take photos? How often is this happening? What are your boundaries and where are there any overlap issues that need resolving? Perhaps you are ok with kissing the third party but your partner is not.
Cuckolding as with any Kink can only be done in a consensual environment where both partners agree to participate.
How to discuss being a cuckold or cuckquean with your wife/husband, boyfriend or girlfriend
Let’s approach this from both sides, from a person who is interested in being in a cuckold relationship and from a person who wants their partner to be cuckolded for them. In both instances the most important factor is honesty, be honest with why you want to try cuckolding, why it appeals, why it turns you on and how you imagine it working in real life, not just on a story on a Reddit board. Cuckolding will not be for everyone. If you want to be cuckolded for your partner, it is unlikely to cause any problems, in theory, however, you must explain how often you fantasize about it panning out, what you enjoy and what scared you about the fantasy because you will probably get pretty bored or worried if things don’t go to plan.
How to trial being Cuckolding
Is being a cuckold within your dynamic really going to be sustainable, perhaps one partner is keener than the other? We would advise you to start off by trialing the dynamic for maybe a weekend away or a week at home, and see how much it interferes with your other commitments. Of course, if you have children, work, family, or study commitments then these will undoubtedly overlap with your cuckolding agreement and you will have to tweak your rules to suit.
How to set your cuckolding boundaries
Boundaries and limits are an important part of any kink dynamic or relationship. Below we set out some important topics to consider when setting your cuckolding boundaries.
When will I be a cuck?
Define a time period for which you will be in the cuckold/cuckake mode, is this a weekends-only thing? Event of party-specific? Is it truly a 24/7 dynamic? Set your rules and develop them over time.
Where will I be cuck?
Will you be a cuck just at home? at a swingers club? on holiday in a hotel? Or are you a cuck whenever and wherever, subject to your hotwife or hot husband’s sexual desires?
Who am I cuck for?
Is this cuckold dynamic solely between you and your partner, multiple partners? will you play alone, with your partner inviting the cuckake or hotwife back to your house, or will you play in public at a fetish or swingers event? In which case, are other partygoers allowed to partake in your sexual humiliation? If so, to what extent? Can they verbally abuse you? Grope you, write or spit on you? The list of kinks is endless, just set your limits before playing.
What types of sex are within our cuckold agreement?
In a standard cuckold or cuckqueen relationship, full penetrative sex would be expected with the cuckake or hotwife, however, things are never set in stone, perhaps you want to be tied up at a swingers club and forced to watch your partner have oral sex, the limits are flexible to your specific desires and fantasies.
What are our cuckold safewords?
As with any kink, it is best practice to set a safeword or multiple safewords. A safeword should immediately stop the dynamic. Some people operate multiple safewords as a way of grading the situation, for example, green is all is “a-ok”, amber is I am not enjoying this particular activity, stop and move on, Red is stop now, this ends the scene, and dynamic. If you start to feel unbearable jealousy, or uncontrollable or unexpected emotions, use your safeword and only continue if you feel up to it.
Experimenting with BBC and cuckolding
One of the most popular cuckold fantasies is the big black cock fantasy, where the cuckold’s wife or girlfriend is fucked by an alpha male (bull) with a big black cock. This plays into multiple kinks including interracial kinks, sexual humiliation, and body kinks.
Cuckolding for the bisexual or bicurious
A common and popular element of cuckoldry in pornography is the consensually, but sometimes forced bisexuality of cuckolding. This can take the form of fucklicking where the bull and hotwife fuck in a doggy-style position and the cuckold lays underneath, either watching his partner get penetrated or licking her pussy whilst it is fucked. Common bisexual elements to this include the bull’s balls dragging over the cuckold’s face, the cuckold is forced to lick the shaft of the bull’s cock as it enters his partner, the bull’s cock slipping out of the cuckold’s partner’s pussy and being forced into the cuckold’s mouth, the bull pulling out and cumming on the cuckold’s face, or the bull cumming into the partners pussy (creampie) and the cuckold being forced to lick it clean, this is known as a cuckold creampie cleanup.
Forced bisexuality for cuckolds and cuckqueans (consensually of course)
As we touched on above, forced bisexuality is a common theme in cuckold and cuckqueen pornography. This can include the forced oral sex for cuckolds as above, or similarly, forced oral sex or creampie cleanups for cuckqueens / cuckqueans.
Experimenting with types of cuckolding play
Cumplay and Creampie Cleanup for Cucks
As with any kink, it is best practice to set a safeword or multiple safewords. A safeword should immediately stop the dynamic. Some people operate multiple safewords as a way of grading the situation, for example, green is all is “a-ok”, amber is I am not enjoying this particular activity, stop and move on, Red is stop now, this ends the scene, and dynamic.
Chastity, cock cages, and chastity belts for Cuckolds and Cuckqueens
As with any kink, it is best practice to set a safeword or multiple safewords. A safeword should immediately stop the dynamic. Some people operate multiple safewords as a way of grading the situation, for example, green is all is “a-ok”, amber is I am not enjoying this particular activity, stop and move on, Red is stop now, this ends the scene, and dynamic.
Hot Husbands and CuckCakes in cuckold relationships
As with any kink, it is best practice to set a safeword or multiple safewords. A safeword should immediately stop the dynamic. Some people operate multiple safewords as a way of grading the situation, for example, green is all is “a-ok”, amber is I am not enjoying this particular activity, stop and move on, Red is stop now, this ends the scene, and dynamic.
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