What is a Munch?

What is a Munch?

If you’re new to the world of BDSM, than the term ‘munch’ might not be super familiar. Today, we’re going to try and bring you a better understanding of the term, and how it fits into various types of play.

As we know, play parties are pretty formal events that cover a broader spectrum of play, and can veer pretty close to serving as the setting for some more hardcore scenes. The opposite can be said of a munch party. These are known for being informal events, where fetish attire, such as latex wear, is highly discouraged. The only exception to this rule would be more covert emblems for master/servant play, such as a tasteful collar.

They often serve as meet and greets of sorts, letting you get to know the people who you might come across in your local dungeon. You could even refer to it as a social gathering that helps newcomers dip their toes into the scene without having to go all in for a real play party.

The title of this event comes from the phrase ‘burger munch’ and is a call back to the early 1980s, when these events were only just starting to hit a rise in popularity. The back rooms of diners and restaurants were the most common places for these events to be held, hence the title of ‘burger munch’. As time passed and the local trend started to change, the ‘burger’ part of the phrase was dropped.

Back before the rise of the internet, munches were pivotal parts of the BDSM community. They served as an informal introduction to the kink scene, and helped you get to know the people who you might be playing with in the future – but without being a heavy setting of its own. The laid back atmosphere was, and still is, an important part of munch parties.

Once you know what a munch party is, there’s another question that should be asked. Why go to one?

Well, that’s actually pretty simple to explain. The kink scene is largely based on trust and heavily reliant on comfort. If the members of a local scene don’t work well together, it could cause a bump big enough to unsettle the play of a lot of people… not to mention that it might result in some actual physical harm, or dangerous ‘outing’ scenarios.

This isn’t just a concern about your own actions. It’s also a concern you should have towards the other people in your kink community, especially if your interests lay in some of the more heavy duty aspects of BDSM.

By attending a munch party, you’re giving yourself a chance to get to know the other people around you… and giving them a chance to get to know you! Munch parties are nonsexual events, and serve as a really awesome way for you to coast into a new environment and check out the scene. It’s also an excellent resource for people who are still trying to figure out the finer details of BDSM too, as you can just ask questions to people face to face.

One of the other really great things about munch parties is that, unlike most play events, you don’t need a sponsor to attend them. The only requirements are that you’re of age, you’re kink friendly, and you’re willing to be respectful to those around you.

The fact that you don’t know anyone might be a little unnerving at first, but munch parties are well known for being a warm, welcoming environment. That’s their whole point, you know? The goal is to remove all barriers of entry, to ensure that you have a good time, and to make certain that you’re comfortable and happy during the whole duration of the event.

Most munch parties will assign an ‘admin’ role to some of the more experienced members of their group. These munch admins will help introduce new comers to the existing party members, and can help you find a bit of a footing in the event. The fact that it’s such a laid back event should help, too. People will be talking about kink, certainly, but it won’t be the only topic of conversation floating around. You’ll be able to get to know these people on a good, solid level.

Munch parties are basically ‘friendly gatherings’ for people with a similar interest, and a good way to get to know other kinksters in your area. If you can find one, it’s worth checking out!